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It is important, especially in a relationship or marriage, to understand how your words and actions affect others. Below are some things you can do that sound really easy and, in fact, will become healthy lifestyle changes with lots of practice amongst your significant other and yourself! Learn to be humble ; having or showing a modest or low estimate of one's own importance. Daily consider the stress and/or negative events that may have taken place in your partner's day or life. Apologize when you are wrong! Know that it is okay to have differences but it is not okay to physically fight and verbally abuse each other over them! Write down and pray on things that you can or could do better. Ask your partner what you need him or her to do more of? Don't take offense to the answer but instead use it as a platform of communication.

Never go outside if your date blows the horn; they need to come to the door! It's okay to demand respect as long as you are willing to return the favor. If you are going on a date with someone new; get directions and meet your date at the destination (drive yourself)! Always let someone you know and trust know where you are going; keep them posted on all of your whereabouts throughout the duration of the date!

Do you know the difference between dating and courting?  Dating is defined as an informal outing with someone you are romantically or sexually interested in. Courting on the other hand, is being involved with someone romantically, with the intention of marrying. With this perspective, what are the top 5 things you are looking for in a potential mate?  Please respond I am interested in your response!

 I am reveling how important and dynamic the word and emotion of love is. It is the only word or emotion that can be warm yet cold, high yet low, strong yet weak, painful yet pleasurable, revered yet rebuked, understood yet unspoken, appreciated yet overlooked, nurtured yet abused, hidden yet exposed, careful yet

My husband and I have loads of experience with long distance love. We have been hundreds of miles apart on the same continent, as well as being on two completely different continents for months at a time. It is not easy but we are survivors. Below are some tips that we follow that help us keep our love intact. Hopefully they will work for you too! Pray together over the phone and for each other throughout the day. Exchange pictures of each other via text or the web daily. Let him or her know how much you miss and love them daily. Keep positive thoughts: This is important because the mind, I believe, has a tendency towards making negative assumptions.

When is the right time to say I love you?  Before getting into that, I have to first tell you when not to say I love you? At the age of 18, I was single, sulking, and the prime host at my own pity party. It was a rainy Valentines' Day and I honestly just wanted to sleep the day away. I was invited on a double date with my cousin and a guy friend that she was not attracted to. This guy friend of hers was best friends with a guy that I knew had a crush on me. My cousin begged me to go because she did not want to spend Valentines' Day stuck in our dorm room. I only agreed to go on the date because I did not want her to go alone. What could possibly happen right?

Adultery is defined as having voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and a person who is not his or her spouse. So I guess couples into swinging are technically committing adultery voluntarily; that will be another post.  I want to know what makes a person willing to take the risk of committing adultery?  Is it the rush they get from doing something forbidden? Are they justifying their actions because they feel emotionally deprived from their spouse? Or are they doing it because they have the opportunity? I am interested in your thoughts so let me know what you believe and why! Also be on the lookout for "And Then There was Adultery (2).