~~~ SO TOOTSIE ~~~

It is no secret that men are initially attracted to what they see. However, to keep them enthralled it takes more. It takes having common interest, spirituality, mutual respect, excitement and humor. They make the possibilities endless! What caused Sylva from Beauty vs Booty?  and  Beauty vs Booty? Part 2  to feel a tinge of jealousy? Her husband, Larry, not only looked at another woman but appeared to have ignored her while doing so! Sylva is a fairly new mom who lost a part of her identity; her style of dress. That does not mean that she is not going to reclaim her lost sense of self but the question is how is she going to do it? Well, take a look at this short script of Larry and Sylva. LARRY: Yes, I looked and I can't take it back! It's already done! What I can do is explain myself! SYLVA: Ok, I'm listening! LARRY: She honestly reminded me of when I first met you! SYLVA: Huh? So you really think I want to hear that? Try again!

It is not an option! It is a command. Did you know he only sees you as a friend? No commitment but in your mind different Oops, your bad, you messed around and caught feelings The last time you checked, have you visited his home? Met his parents or answered his phone? The truth is right before your eyes but your mind keep telling you those little empty lies.

Some say beauty is in the "eye of the beholder" Some say it's natural yet others say it's made She says makeup enhances the beauty that is already there... He says it shines from within All the colors are beautiful not just one...From sun-kissed to bronzed to the color of cotton farms.  She is as beautiful as beauty is to see

For if a man think himself to be something, when he is nothing, he deceiveth himself; But let every man prove his own work , and then shall he have rejoicing in himself alone, and not in another, Galatians 6:3-4.  I just thought I would speak on jealousy today! What is it?, How does it come about? and how to work towards getting rid of it! When I think of  the word Jealousy, I think of covetousness, gossip, nosiness, bitterness, envy and lying. Covetousness, envy and bitterness is self- explanatory. However, the other three words; gossip, nosiness and lying may not be your normal words associated with jealousy but I will explain why it does to me.

I want to first discuss the difference between a glance (brief look), a stare (a fixed look) and a double-take (a delayed reaction to something unexpected, immediately after one's first reaction) before I delve into the situation of Larry and Sylva in BEAUTY VS BOOTY . I wonder what you are thinking! Which one (glance, stare or double-take) do you find or think is the most respectful when you are out with your significant other?

Do you hear her? Are you listening? Her tears are done She is getting up and walking out right now as we speak She wants you to know that it is more to being a husband than giving her this ring. She told me to give it back to you... She said that you may look at it and notice how she took care of it; that it is so shiny and brilliant and clean. She told me to make  sure and tell you that her tears are what kept it so clean for you after all these years...

Fiction (Scenario): Larry and Silva have been married for 5 years and have one child. They both have very busy work schedules. They have not been spending the time that they used to spend together since the birth of their son 2 years ago. Tonight is the night that they both are looking forward to; getting back into the swing of how things used to be.  SILVA: Do you still think I'm beautiful? LARRY: Yes, you are a natural beauty. You know that's what I like! Why do you ask? SILVA: I just wanted to know what you think that's all. You know just to see where your mind is! SILVA: L-Larry! LARRY: Huh, what did you say? Silva just caught Larry starring at another woman. What do you think is the moral of this story?