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For if a man think himself to be something, when he is nothing, he deceiveth himself; But let every man prove his own work , and then shall he have rejoicing in himself alone, and not in another, Galatians 6:3-4.  I just thought I would speak on jealousy today! What is it?, How does it come about? and how to work towards getting rid of it! When I think of  the word Jealousy, I think of covetousness, gossip, nosiness, bitterness, envy and lying. Covetousness, envy and bitterness is self- explanatory. However, the other three words; gossip, nosiness and lying may not be your normal words associated with jealousy but I will explain why it does to me.

I want to first discuss the difference between a glance (brief look), a stare (a fixed look) and a double-take (a delayed reaction to something unexpected, immediately after one's first reaction) before I delve into the situation of Larry and Sylva in BEAUTY VS BOOTY . I wonder what you are thinking! Which one (glance, stare or double-take) do you find or think is the most respectful when you are out with your significant other?

Do you hear her? Are you listening? Her tears are done She is getting up and walking out right now as we speak She wants you to know that it is more to being a husband than giving her this ring. She told me to give it back to you... She said that you may look at it and notice how she took care of it; that it is so shiny and brilliant and clean. She told me to make  sure and tell you that her tears are what kept it so clean for you after all these years...

Fiction (Scenario): Larry and Silva have been married for 5 years and have one child. They both have very busy work schedules. They have not been spending the time that they used to spend together since the birth of their son 2 years ago. Tonight is the night that they both are looking forward to; getting back into the swing of how things used to be.  SILVA: Do you still think I'm beautiful? LARRY: Yes, you are a natural beauty. You know that's what I like! Why do you ask? SILVA: I just wanted to know what you think that's all. You know just to see where your mind is! SILVA: L-Larry! LARRY: Huh, what did you say? Silva just caught Larry starring at another woman. What do you think is the moral of this story?

Learning to love your body type is more than just how you look on the outside. I believe health and confidence are two important factors. When I speak of health I am referring to psychological and/or physical. Yes, there are many different body types that exist but we should all be confident in our skin and the body that we possess. Just know that jealousy does not help; it only fuels unhealthy practices!  If you happen to not like something about yourself, work towards changing it in a healthy fashion. Again, I want to reiterate that this may not mean making physical changes but psychological changes or, perhaps, both. Your cognitions and perspective on who you are as a person matters in helping you move towards making healthy choices and lifestyle changes. So, with that being said, what is your single best physical feature?

Merry Christmas and greetings to all! I thought it would be fun to list my top 4 Christmas pet peeves; so here goes! Fruitcake with those jellied candies. What are they? (yuck!) Forgetting to buy aluminum pans and remembering as soon as all the stores close! When I was younger, blinking outdoor Christmas decorations shining through the windows as well as the curtains. I was not waiting up for Santa....I really couldn't sleep! Radio stations that play every slow Christmas song ever invented...song after song after song! As much as I love to eat certain types of wild game; I don't like it to be cooked in my house....can't stand the smell!!! Have a wonderful and blessed Christmas!!!!!!

It is not always easy seeing eye to eye in a relationship or marriage but you have to learn to agree to disagree. What does this mean? It means that we all have our differences in opinion but it doesn't have to become an outright brawl in the Bronx!