VERBAL ABUSE; NOT COOL!

Abuse is not always physical, it can be emotional and verbal as well. I am a strong believer in respecting those around me as well as respecting myself. I encourage and challenge everyone reading this to think before they speak; yes, even when you are angry! Below are two ways to recognize if you are the perpetrator or recipient of verbal abuse and what you can do towards ending it. Before introducing you to them; I want to make note, it is possible for the acting perpetrator or recipient to change rolls in the relationship. This is not what you want to happen. The goal here is to eliminate verbal abuse altogether.

1. If you are saying harsh things to your spouse or partner that you, yourself, wouldn't want to hear or receive; you are the acting perpetrator.
2. If your partner or spouse makes comments to and about you that are hurtful and distasteful; you are the acting recipient.

Now that we have established the meaning of a verbal abuse "perpetrator" and verbal abuse "recipient", what are you going to do to stop the madness?  Direct your attention below please:

1. Don't ever rationalize or accept your partner or spouse speaking negatively towards you. Be assertive and tell him or her that, "it is not okay". I want to also point out that this can work at any stage of the relationship but should be practiced at the beginning; it is much easier to combat.  
2. If you recognize that you are indeed the "perpetrator" ask God to forgive you and then ask your partner for forgiveness as well. Seek help from a counselor or support group. You can also begin to speak positively to your partner or spouse. 
3. For every negative thing you want to say or thought; say or think something positive instead, and continue to pray. Remember you are a work in progress!
4. Read my other post titled, "6 WAYS TO LOVE YOURSELF MORE", written on Nov 12, 2011.

Remember that verbal abuse can lead to other types of abuse. Stop it before it starts! For more updates like this, click follow me at the top left of your screen. Thanks for reading!